“Whether you think you can or can’t either way you are right.”February 25, 2011 at 7:56 am | Posted in Uncategorized | 1 Comment
Wow, does that actually use the word can’t. It does!
If you have taken Learn to Fly or spent any length of time with my children and I, you would know that “can’t” is not an acceptable word in my world. I believe that you can do anything you put your mind, body, and soul into. You can also chose not to do something. In either case, the person is taking responsibility for deciding whether to do something or not.
My experience is that using the self-limiting words, such as can’t, never, should and always leads one to self-limiting thoughts, actions, habits, etc. This quote sums it up quite nicely for me:
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
However in this case, the quote used in the title uses the word “can’t” to illustrate the same point I am!
On my vision boards, both personal and biz, there are areas related to money. In every area of my three boards, I was very clear on the affirmation, the aha moment or the goal related to that particular area. However, for the visualizations/words that represented the areas of finance, I was drawing a blank.
In the Learn to Fly course, I have a blank artist canvas that I use to illustrate a point. The canvas has the foam word “believe” in front of it. This is to symbolize that sometimes we are not going to know the path we have to take or have the answer immediately to a question or problem we need solved; but that we need to have faith that the universe, simply because we have acknowledged it and stated that we were looking for some guidance in that area, will help in figuring out a solution. I like to sum it up like we are co-starring with the universe in the movie of our lives and you have to trust your co-star! So I was doing my best to be patient ;)
I still up to just the other day, had not written out an affirmation, had a aha moment to speak of or wrote a goal for the money pictures. However knew they are important to me, so ensured that I would spend a moment or two each day, focussing on the visualizations that represented them on my boards.
In my Learn to Fly workshops, I ask people to focus on where in their lives they catch themselves using the words can’t, should, never, & always. And guess what? I made an interesting discovery for myself. Ever since I can remember I’ve had the conversation with my children about using the word can’t. We don’t use it, I prefer the children to say that they are choosing not to do whatever it is, as opposed to saying they can’t do it. But I realized that I was using the word can’t in relation to money, constantly. “We can’t afford to do that.” “We can’t spend that kind of money.” And not only was I using it, my “use of the word can’t” radar didn’t even go off. This was not good.
So, that meant that I had to start to delve a little deeper into what was blocking my conscience from realizing that I was using the word “can’t” in relation to money and what was lodged into my sub-conscious to have me automatically respond with the word “can’t” only in relation to money. Hmm…
True to Amber-fashion, I was not going to leave any stone unturned! This lead me on an interesting path of hypnotherapy, number crunching, marketing planning and of course, life skills exercises, all centered around money.
Stay tuned for what I discovered :)
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